Sunday, August 15, 2010

Hello Everyone!!!

Well hello everyone. It sure has been a long time since I had last posted anything to my blog. I would like to take this time to inform anyone who happens to follow my blog that I will be getting married. That's right ladies and gentlemen. I am so in love with Tanya that I have decided to get married again.

As some of you may know from reading some of my past blogs, Tanya is my true soulmate. I love her with all my heart.

Wedding date has not yet been set and I haven't yet even "popped" the question to her. However, we have been shopping for rings and Tanya and her mother have even decided on what the colors of our wedding should be.

I have waited so long to be completely happy and to find that someone that can does make me as happy as Tanya does. Not only does she make me incredible happy, but she also makes my son Ethan happy too.

Well, that's about all I have to catch everyone up on to this point. I hope that everyone will have a great start to the fall semester. Good luck everyone.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Love Has Found Me

As many of you know that have followed my blog from school this has been a rough year, especially when it comes to the "love department." Those of you who may have read my blog may remember a story that I wrote about my ex wife. She had gotten into my facebook account and had messaged a wonderful woman some very aweful and hurtful things about me in an effort to push this woman away. Sad thing, it worked. This incredible woman that I had gone out with, had amazing conversation with, whom I have tons and tons of things in common with, was suddenly gone. Krysti had successfully pushed this amazing person out of my life. This incredible woman politely told me that she didn't have time for all the drama and that I should just respect her decision on the matter, which I did.

After this unfortunate occurance took place, I just tried to keep myself occupied with school and with the sports that Ethan participates in. Even though that I remained quite busy with all the activities, there was still something missing. A void in my life that I couldn't really come to terms with.

Then, one day about a month or so later, this incredible woman whom I thought was out of my life forever sent me a text message. I was shocked, in fact, shocked is an under statement. I didn't know what to think. I was in so much awe that I actually read the message a few times before I even replied to it. My brother was even with me and he asked me if I was going to reply to the message. I told him that I would be responding to the message.

Replying to her message was the smartest thing that I have ever done in my entire life. A few weeks after the response to her message, she invited me back up to her house in Springfield to hang out and talk. I happily accepted the invitation. Once I got to her house to meet up with her, I was so overcome with emotion that I immediately picked her up in my arms and gave her a hug. When then left and had a wonderful dinner. While at dinner, we picked up where we left off at after the last time that we had seen each other. After dinner we went back to her home and continued the great conversation.

Then came the difficult part. We had the conversation about Krysti. Once the air was cleared about Krysti, we then changed the subject and just focused on us. We had realized that the spark and chemistry that we had for one another was still there and very much alive. As the evening ended she walked me to my truck, at my request of course. At this point, the most wonderful thing to ever happen to me occured. We had our first kiss.

Before the kiss took place, I was so nervous. It was like I was going to kiss a woman for the very first time. The nerves and the butterflies seemed to be multiplying in every breath that I would take. Finally, the moment of truth happened. The kiss took place. Her lips were so soft and inviting. The kiss was so magical and intoxicating that I didn't want it to end. I just wanted to stay in that moment forever.

On the drive home, I couldn't help but to feel like I was in heaven. I also realized at that point that another feeling was taking me over. That feeling was love. I knew at that point that I finally knew what it was to not only feel what love is, but to feel that I was in love. I was so overcome with emotion that I wanted to scream it at the top of my lungs for everyone to hear. I wanted everyone in the world to know that I am in love with Tanya Johnson.

That very next morning we both decided to take our relationship to the next level. We have been together everyday since with each day being more magical and special than the first. Thanks to Tanya, I do believe that God does have someone out there for everyone. Tanya is and always will be my one true love, my soul mate. The void in my life that I had referred to earlier in the blog, is now filled. Tanya's love for me has been the missing piece in my life that I was always searching for and now have. I do not want to ever think or imagine this wonderful woman ever to be out of my life.

I love you, Tanya, forever!

Monday, May 10, 2010

End Of Semester

Well ladies and gentlement here we are again. The spring semester is coming to a close and it's time to start thinking about summer classes or for some of you taking the summer off. In my case, I am taking two summer courses. One of which I have to take on campus and the other will be on line.

Looking back over this last semester, I have realized my limitations. This semester I tried to tackle a 16 hour schedule. Boy was I stupid in doing that. Here I was thinking that I should be able to handle the workload plus do everything else in my personal life. I was so wrong. This workload practically killed me. Note to self: No more than 12 hours per semester. Good, now that I have that little reminder out of the way we can finish this blog.

Over the last two semesters I have really enjoyed keeping this blog. Of course it helps that I love to write. Keeping this blog helped me sharpen my writing skills because, as we all know, practice makes perfect. Not only was the practice needed, but I was also able to keep up on current events. Plus, my son watched me write the blog all the time and that has made him more interested in writing. In fact he has now started writing almost everday.

I shall miss this particular class. It was fun and tedious all at the same time. It was tedious as far as the deadlines go but fun when you would see the finished product.

I have decided that I will keep this blog going. My goal is to make at least one post per week and as we all know, who knows exactly what I will write about.

I hope all my classmates and Mrs. Chism will have a wonderful summer. Good luck to everyone while you pursue your respective degrees.

Have a great summer!!!!!

Friday, May 7, 2010

UVA Lacrosse Player Charged With Murder

According to a story released by ABCNEWS (1), 22 year old George Huguely has been charged with the brutal death of his 22 year old girlfriend Yeardley Love. Both Huguely and Love were members of the University of Virginia varsity lacrosse teams. Details of the story are still being investigated.

Details that have been released are that Ms. Love was found in her bedroom laying face down on her pillow in a pool of blood and it seemed she had suffered severe blunt force trauma to the head and body.

Mr. Huguely and Ms. Love had been dating for almost a year. Both were star athletes on their respective teams. Both were set to graduate May 23 with degrees in their respective fields of study. Since the incident Mr. Huguely has withdrawn from the university and Ms. Love will receive her degree posthumously with the rest of her class. Both the men and women's lacrosse teams will compete in the NCAA lacrosse tournament in honor of Ms. Love.

Now, one has to wonder if this crime could have been prevented? My answer is yes. I feel that further screening of students would have shown that Mr. Huguely had a violent past. He was arrested in 2008 for public intoxication and resisting arrest. In fact during this arrest he even made threats to the female officer who was making the arrest. Now, this young girl has had her life taken away from her. All the hard work that she put in was taken away from her because the "boy" could not handle the fact that she was thru with him.

According to national statistics (2), one in five female college students are victims of domestic viloence. Also, one in 10 male students are also victims of domestic violence. And no most of these domestic violence incidents stem from athletes. These incidents are coming form ordinary students. How are university officials going to curb this cycle of violence? That question still remains to be answered. In fact, it may never be answered. For Ms. Love, the answer should HAVE came.





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1)www.abcnews.go.com/GMA/thelaw/yeardly-love-death-warning-signs-missed-ahead-universtiy/story?

2)www.webanswers.com

Reflection

Over the course of the last few weeks I have been serving my church by doing some community service at the Watered Gardens Ministry. During this time I have done some soul searching, personal reflection of sorts. I have come to the realization that life is not as bad as what it seems.

As most of you know I have had a very bad year in terms of personal loss. Last semester I lost a dear friend and classmate and then this semester I lost my father. That in itself was a huge turn of events for me because I lost two people that I could always turn to for advice and support.

Now, as I was working at the ministry, I began to look at some of the people that were barely surviving. People that were, in many aspects, living in tents and only eating when the ministry was open. At this point, I became truly thankful for all the things that I have in life. I still have a wonderful mother, brother and sister-in-law, an awesome nephew and niece, and last but not certainly not least a wonderful son in Ethan.

Then as I was reflecting on how great I do have it, I began to wonder how society has simply forgotten some of these people. Now I'm not talking about people who are drug addicts and alcoholics, that in itself is a whole other discussion. I'm talking about the people who have tried to help themselves or that their mental disabilities are so severe that that they cannot help themselves. I know that around in this area the shelters are over crowded. I know that funding for these places are very limited as well. In fact most of them are funded by private donations and what not. I just wish that I could do more than just give my time.

After leaving Watered Gardens, I now have a new sense of myself. I feel that no matter how badly my day is going, that there are people out there who have it worse than I do. Also upon leaving, I felt a great sense of accomplishment for helping these people. I have also made a commitment to myself to continue to serve there as much as I possibly can.

Friday, April 30, 2010

Mom Kept Secret Life of Drinking from Loved Ones

According to a recent story released by ABCNEWS (1), Tina a 43 year old former politician, now stay home Mom, drinks wine out of her coffee cup in attempts to hide her drinking from loved ones.

Tina, originally left the fast paced life of being a politician to spend more time with her children and what went from a few glasses of wine at night quickly turned into a bottle or even more of wine at night. Then the drinking in the morning was started when the mom's of would get together after the kids would go to school. She at first realized that she was becoming an alcoholic when she would wake up in the morning with the "shakes."

Research conducted by the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse (2), states that 1/3 of all alcoholics are women. I find that number very fascinating. Although, I do not drink, I do sometimes venture out to a local tavern to meet with friends or be a designated driver. What I find at these "bars" are that more of the women in these places are drinking more that the men are. So I find it hard to believe that only 1/3 of alcoholics are women. I figured the number to be much higher.

Now, I am sure that the study that was performed by the institute was a controlled study with many imperfections of gaining truly accurate numbers. However, that number is still staggering. I wonder, does the hustle and bustle of everyday life have gotten to the women too! I realize in today's society it takes two to run a successful household. I also realize that women have more physical demands put on them by society.

Alcoholism is a very dangerous disease, and that is what it truly is. It grabs a hold of you and before you know it, your body and mind needs it to function. Take for instance our subject of this story, Tina. Before she had gone into rehab, she was drinking to cure the shakes she was having. Only the alcohol would take the shakes away.

I know that there are people out there that do drink responsibly. Maybe one day anyone who drinks will be responsible.



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1)www.abcnews.com/go/2020/mom-secret-habit-coffee-mug-full-of-wine
2)National Institute of Alcohol Abuse.com

When Life Hands You Lemons, Make Lemonade!!!!!

It's true what the old saying goes, "when life hands you lemons, make lemonade." Over the course of this semester, many of you have seen me at my worst. First was the death of my father, then Ethan breaking his foot before the state tournament, and finally the crap that my ex wife stirred up on my facebook account.

I must admit that at one point it was driving me absolutely crazy with all the negative fortunes that were coming into my life. Especially the ex wife problems. However, I have since took care of the problem of the ex wife and Ethan's foot is healing properly. Well, still havent gotten over my Father's death, but I am working on that.

With that being said, I have mastered the art of making lemonade. Each and every day I wake up thinking, "what the hell is going to happen to me today?" Who would really blame me for thinking this way? With all the crap that has happened to me who wouldn't start thinking this way right? Well, I will not think this way anymore. I refuse to think like this anymore. My Father's death and Ethan's injured foot are things that I cannot control. However, the way that I have been treated by my ex wife I can. I have recently took some very good advice from my younger brother Nathan. That advice is simply tell my ex wife to "F.O!!!!" Now, usually I do not use that kind of language, but the way she has been treating me is done.

That's right Krysti, you will never treat me like a worthless piece of meat again. I hope and pray that the next person you come across is just as vile as you are. I hope they deliver as much pain and sorrow to you as you have done to me.

I know that a good christian is not supposed to wish ill feelings toward any one person, but that is o.k. I feel that this venomous person deserves these ill feelings and wishes.